I confess that it is hard to do this!\u00a0 After all, the dishes need done NOW and by the time you get Sally to quit playing and back on task, Janie could have had them washed, dried, put away and on to the next thing!<\/p>\n
But Mama, if you keep doing that, some day Sally not only won’t be good\u00a0 help, she won’t want<\/em> to help!\u00a0 And Janie won’t like Sally much, either!<\/p>\n I think it is God’s design to get us to slow down and….you know what I’m going to say, don’t you!!!<\/p>\n Focus on the relationship!<\/em><\/p>\n <\/em>\u00a0<\/p>\n This isn’t just “train them to work so we can get it all done” (if you do that, let me know how it goes!\u00a0 \ud83d\ude42 ).\u00a0\u00a0 This is truly character training.<\/p>\n Yours just as much as theirs!<\/p>\n Little ones really do want to help, and yes, you could do it faster yourself, but unless you want to wear yourself out doing it all yourself, I suggest you lower your standards of perfection and train the littles—and try to enjoy the process as you go!\u00a0 Let them know how much you enjoy their help and their chatter and brag on them!<\/p>\n I remember when our Noah was just a toddler, he would “help” the girls bring in a jar of milk.\u00a0 They would be hanging onto it at the top, and he’d put his sweet baby hands underneath.\u00a0 They’d let him carry a bit of the weight so he really felt a part of it, and we’d brag on what a strong boy he was and such good help, too!\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n As he got older, he brought in a jar by himself one day and said,\u00a0\u00a0 “Look!\u00a0 I strong boy!”\u00a0\u00a0 Oh, how sweet a memory!<\/p>\n So as you think through different chores, think youngest <\/em>to oldest, and you will avoid one big pitfall of big families—and have good helpers and sweet memories to boot!<\/p>\n Remember, “Life is what happens while you’re trying to get everything back to normal!”\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Something we and many families I know do is to divide up the house into “areas” 0r “jurisdictions”.\u00a0\u00a0 I know the Duggars do this, but we were doing it long before we heard of the Duggars!\u00a0 (And I had the privilege of hearing Michelle speak back in 2000!)\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Our “areas” are library and living room, kitchen and laundry room, entry and main bath, sunroom.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 The girls are responsible for their own rooms, and a few older girls now take care of the upstairs bath and stairway (including two landings).<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n They are assigned their area and they stay there for quite awhile.\u00a0 I used to rotate more, but now they ask to trade out every so often, so they’re basically doing the rotating!\u00a0 \ud83d\ude09\u00a0\u00a0 They are to dust –it’s supposed to be weekly.\u00a0 Reality:\u00a0\u00a0 it gets done every other week and sometimes monthly.\u00a0 When they were younger, if we were dusting they would ask who is coming over!\u00a0\u00a0 Now you know my deep, dark secrets!\u00a0 (To be fair, dusting was way low on my husband’s priority list–he was made to dust daily and thought it was a major overkill!)\u00a0\u00a0 They also sweep\/vacuum their area, and they are responsible to straighten it daily.\u00a0\u00a0 Whoever is in charge of the library is expected to straighten up the children’s books bookcase as needed!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Now whoever has the kitchen is only responsible to sweep and mop—cleaning of the kitchen itself goes to the girl in charge of meals.\u00a0\u00a0 When Jessica, our oldest, was around 13, we graduated her out of her area and she helped make supper.\u00a0 She became responsible for supper all the time, eventually.\u00a0 So at that time, she did not have to do dishes (we’ve changed some things since then), but she was responsible to clean out the microwave, clean the stove, clean out the refrigerator, etc.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Before that, *I* was the one doing it!\u00a0\u00a0 But it still was quite helpful to have my helpers all over the house, each doing her part!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Bathroom detail is three times a week.\u00a0 Basics are cleaning the toilet, sinks (we have two in the main bath), and the outside of the tub.\u00a0\u00a0 Once a week they are to clean the tub\/shower, wipe down cupboard doors, etc.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n We clean baths 3 times a week, and we sweep 3 times a week, so Monday, Wednesday, and Friday are bath cleaning days, while Tuesday, Thursday and\u00a0Saturday are sweeping days.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n There are times, of course, when we need a little extra cleaning or sweeping on an “off” day.\u00a0 And yes, I have and still do hear, “But this isn’t sweeping day!”<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n To which I reply, “I just made it sweeping day!” \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n The downfall of “jurisdictional areas” is that people become quite possessive and dogmatic about it.\u00a0 Which means I also hear, “This isn’t my area!”\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n To which I reply, “I just made it your area!” \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n I explain to my children that this is not just about getting things done.\u00a0 There are times we need to pull together and help each other because perhaps company is coming and a younger child can’t get their area all cleaned up quickly.\u00a0 Or someone is sick.\u00a0\u00a0 Then there are other times that yes, that person needs to take care of their area.\u00a0 One thing I have to constantly be on guard is a selfish, “I got mine<\/em> done, so why should I help her<\/em>?” attitude.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n I remind them that we are to develop the heart of a servant–Jesus came not to be served, but served others, and He did the job of the lowliest servant of His time!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n There is a training time, and I’ve had checklists on the back of cupboard doors or on clipboards for them to check off that they did what they are supposed to.\u00a0\u00a0 Then when it’s time for them to move to another area, they<\/em> are responsible to train the next sibling!\u00a0 (With my oversight, of course!)<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n What do you do with all those cute cards your children make you?\u00a0 Or the sweet pictures that you would like to keep?\u00a0 First of all, put their name and age on it, perhaps the date (have them write their name if possible!), then you can either make a file with that child’s name on it in your filing cabinet or box, OR you can use Ziploc bags!\u00a0\u00a0 I write the year on them, and then all the Mother’s Day, birthday, Christmas and whatever cards are put in there.\u00a0\u00a0 Pictures I try to put in a folder or box, but I’ve been known to fold it nicely and stick it in a Ziploc, too!\u00a0\u00a0 That way, if you don’t have lots of file space, you can keep mementos somewhat together!\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n I’d like to say that I have a wonderful organizational system for you to keep those Ziploc bags under control….but I don’t!\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n And of course, after awhile you may need to pare down the file or box where you keep these treasures!\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Do you have a difficult child?\u00a0 One who is on hyperdrive most of the time?\u00a0\u00a0 Or just one that seems to always be in the middle of a muddle?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Have you ever tried “Hug Therapy”?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n On the T-Tapp Mommy Fitness Forum we were discussing this just a little while ago.\u00a0\u00a0 Many of us have found that these children actually need our love the most when we want to give it to them the least!\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Kind of like our Abba Father, isn’t it?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Often, just grabbing them and hugging them or reaching out and tousling their hair, rubbing a back…many times that will do much to diffuse a situation that could escalate into a battle of wills.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n It doesn’t always work (just like it doesn’t always work with us!), but many times we<\/em><\/strong> need to diffuse our emotions, too.<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n So try it!\u00a0 You’ll be amazed what a hug will do!\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n What do you do when life happens and “school” slams to a halt?<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Well, for awhile you could play Horseopoly!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Then when you get tired of that, you could make your own game of….<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Alphabetopoly!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Or how about Muffin-opoly?<\/p>\n \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Pig-opoly?<\/p>\n \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n Cat-opoly, maybe?<\/p>\n \u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n I know!<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Cow-opoly!<\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/www.inspirationsofthepast.com\/scroll8.gif\")
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